Love isn’t everything. It’s true, but it’s also true that a relationship without love can’t grow up.
When I was 9, my mom got me a puppy. Her name was Lily. I was so excited and happy to give her all my love in the minute she came home. Every week my mom brought her her special food. Every week, my cousing bathed her.
As my mom was a little bit scared of me getting sick, she ordered me not to sleep with my puppy. I made her a little bed in the living room and left her there. Obviously, my mom won’t receive her in her bedroom, either.
But my cousin was a teen. She took the risk because she couldn’t imagine Lily being cold all night.
Whenever I came home, Lily was ready to play. She jumped all over the place whenever whoever came home. She was the loveliest pup ever!
However, there was this time when I doubted she loved me back. A neighbor call her and she started walking towards him. No biggy since he was a really close friend of my family. But I was going home and she was walking with me, I thought, me, as her “mom”, she would listen to my voice calling her name and right away keep walking with me.
But no, she stared at me and then my neighbor and she was confused. She didn’t know what to do. We both kept calling her because we both wanted her attention but, suddenly, my cousin came to see if anything happened to me because I was taking too long to come back.
She noticed what happened and say: “Lily come” and Lily went.
I was confused. Why she didn’t react the same way with me?
I didn’t answered that question until this very year. Until I’m 26.
Like I said before, my cousin got a little puppy who looked just like Lily and called her Lía. Since my nephews have a lot of friends in Guatemala, Lía has a lot of time to be alone. But as I was in there, she wanted to be alone with someone, so she always comes to my room and stays with me.
She suddenly asks for cuddles, so I play with her, but then she wants her space and we keep working.
But my niece is just like me when I was 9 (she’s 11). And all she wants to do whenever she sees Lía is give her all her love. Because, that’s the only thing you have to offer at that age. Or at least, the only thing one think a puppy needs.
Lía gets desperate and runs to hide behind me. And she was like: I don’t get it, I’m not doing her any harm. And suddenly it all started to sink.
That’s true, we’re not doing any harm to the other part. But we think that’s the only thing to keep a relationship happy.
Love isn’t everything. It’s true, but it’s also true that a relationship without love can’t grow up. We tend to think love is give hugs and play and stay around. But love is to notice and complement because we want to and not because we want the other part to love us back.
I was making the mistake to think my puppy only needed my love. But she also needed care, she needed food, she needed bath, she needed a warm bed. And the people providing that was my mom and my cousin. She knew I was her playbuddy but she also needed to rest, and that’s why she kept running to my cousin’s bed.
The same reason why Lía runs away from my niece when she’s tired. She doesn’t want to play all the time. Sometimes, she wants to be resting and do her stuff like chasing her own tale but she doesn’t want to be alone. And that’s why she wanted to be with me, because I knew I wouldn’t bother her unless she wanted me to.
A human relationship is more complicated than this, of course, but at least I know how to explain the basics. See, it’s ok to have a heart full of love, but it’s also ok to notice if the other part is ready to receive it. Or if it’s ready to receive it now.
Also, it’s a great idea to give some space whenever necessary. Specially in finals.
Anyway, I don’t want to say goodbye without also inviting to notice if someone is wanting to give you a heart full of love. I know it’s very common to misinterpret this as relationship love but I want you to remember that is one God who has a heart full of love waiting for your answer.
Don’t leave Him waiting.